Maybe you’re familiar with the negative internal dialog. Mine sounds something like… “I’m not good enough… This is too hard… People won’t like me.”
I’ve fought this internal mean girl for as long as I can remember. I have a hunch she’s been passed down from generations.
And I’ve learned something about this angry inner voice… she just wants to be heard. She’s scared, she’s lonely and she’s very irrational.
When I separate myself from this emotionally triggered mean girl and allow my higher self to lovingly embrace and comfort her, she then seems so sweet and innocent.
Literally hug and embrace that place inside of you that feels unlovable, that believes she’s not good enough, and is afraid.
Fighting and pushing and resisting only makes it meaner and more powerful.
Steps to embrace your inner mean girl/guy:
- Stop and notice when your internal dialog has turned mean and ugly. You’ll also notice heightened emotions.
- Take a deep breath.
- Imagine the inner voice as a separate part of you. Give it a name.
- Ask the voice questions like… “Hey what’s going on? What are you feeling? What are you afraid of? What makes you believe that to be true?”.
Giving that upset part of you a voice, and a platform to share, will help dissolve the intense emotions around the situation. It will also allow your higher self to see how irrational the thoughts and feelings may be. And that will make it easier to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and keep going.
This inner voice is the biggest killer of hopes and dreams. It’s the number one cause of unworthiness and confusion. And if you let it run the show it could ruin your chance to have your deepest desires fulfilled.
Feeling stuck and confused? Feeling beaten and worn from an internal struggle? I really do know what that’s like. It sucks!
Contact me to schedule a complimentary 30 minute clarity session and let’s clear some of the smog and uncertainty so you can go after your desires with confidence.